i had a baby and now i have a baby. she's a tiny machine of awesome and 24-hour need and i love her dearly.

we're almost six weeks in and my brain is a scattered wasteland of sleep deprivation and reality TV at 3am, so here goes my personal buzzfeed-esque post about my life with baby so far.

baby lesson #1: throw money at the problem

i'm of the frugal sort generally and even right up until i had the baby i was like "we don't need that item everyone says you need so let's not get it" and then the baby arrived and i was like 
amazon prime is my new best friend and i see the delivery man more than i see real people i love in my life.

baby lesson #2: you're on baby time now

exhausted and running on 2 hours of fitful sleep? haven't showered in 3 days? haven't eaten anything except cheez-its in 6 hours? baby don't care. deal with it.

baby lesson #3: sasha fierce

mom protect mode is real. as soon as that baby was out in the world a switch flipped and i became determined to ruin anyone with any intention of getting in the way of the safety of my tiny offspring. grabby kid in target who wants to touch my baby? 
loitering old man who has a cough like he has TB? 
handsy ladies who get too close to the stroller? 

baby lesson #4: emotions

the following are feelings i vacillate between on a daily basis:

look at this amazing baby we made! 

i am responsible for this tiny fragile person.

weepy frustration when i've just fallen asleep and you hear the baby rousing. 

missing my old life, pre baby, where i slept when i wanted and drank alcohol. 

pride at creating a tiny lovely little human. 

baby lesson #5: you do you

i am shocked at the amount of shame that is heaped on moms in the name of 'what's best for the baby.' it's oppressive and cruel and it isn't necessary. you breastfeed or formula feed or disposable diaper or co-sleep? great! i don't care. you do you.

my mantra so far has been "you're doing a good job" and "don't question your choices." being a mom is harder than i thought it would be, but it's also sometimes easier and (yes, cliche) worth it, at least so far. started from the bottom now the whole team here.

I am currently 8 months pregnant and the slow loss of dignity that can come with pregnancy has now settled in. In my case, it is shoes. Your mom friends were not kidding when they said their feet expanded and hurt all the time. I'm am now relying heavily on Clarks: my long beloved desert boots and now, Wallabees.

Wallabees are ugly-cool and so comfortable. You know who else loves Wallabees?

1. Wu-Tang.

2. Walter White.
3. Wes Anderson.

I'm in good company.

Images via 1 / 2 / 3

In a tiny personal triumph, I accurately predicted that J. Crew would revive their great bathing suits from the 1990s.

You know, the bathing suits I couldn't wear b/c I had legit boobs that required some internal structure and these were suits designed for lanky tennis-legged rich girls. Anyway, J. Crew smartly brought them back for those tennis girls who are now grown women and still don't need a bra I guess. I would also like to see the return of the basic suit that had the stringy x-back so I can order it, try it on, realize it still won't work for me and return it.

Nick Waterhouse's Holly is on NYT's Press Play for your listening pleasure.

Via Spitalfields Life, I am coveting these two photography books from the Hoxton Mini Press.

Last year I set a New Years Resolution to watch 365 movies in 2013. I also wanted to focus on classics, movies I hadn't seen that are part of the canon of good films. Every month I recapped the movies I watched and now here I am, reporting from nearly-mid-2014, on my year of watching movies.

The Good:

Blue Velvet. Oh David Lynch, you delightful romantic creep. This is my favorite of all his movies.

How to Survive a Plaque. A powerful look at how grassroots advocacy can transform the world, and I was a pile of sobs during the entire movie. It was extraordinary.

Robert Mitchum, an actor who personified menace and coiled danger coiled. He was mesmerizing and delightful in both Cape Fear and The Night of the Hunter.

Splendor in the Grass. A young, supple Warren Beatty and teenage sexuality.

Terrence Malick.

Spring Breakers. This was a surprise. I didn't know what to expect from Harmony Korine, but it wasn't this bananas music video-esque movie w/ female leads and a Skrilliex soundstrack.

The Way, Way Back. I expected nothing of this movie and was pleasantly surprised by how sad and true it was. Jim Rash and Sam Rockwell for all the sad-sweet coming of age movies please.

Dog Day Afternoon. Christ, is this a good movie.
Magnolia. The Master. I want to weep thinking about Phillip Seymour Hoffman's gravitas in both these movies, and how we've lost that talent. He was truly special.

The Bad:
I tried not to focus on bad movies, and usually turned off ones that really sucked early enough to not count them as watched. However, these should be noted

Leaving Las Vegas. I stuck this one out b/c Oscar nominations and dramatic Nic Cage and I wish I hadn't. I really hated this movie.

Pain and Gain. I love bad cheesy movies, but this one was too terrible even for me. Sorry Marky Mark.

What I Learned:

I revisit movies I love. I watched Alien and Aliens multiple times this year, with honorable mentions for Jaws, 28 Days Later and Blazing Saddles. Somebody's gotta go back and and get a shit-load of dimes.

I enjoy terrible movies. Examples include Will Farrell's Land of the Lost, The Losers and Road House.

Christopher Guest movies are always the perfect choice.
Eddie Murphy. Eddie, why have you forsaken us? Coming to America, Trading Places, The Golden Child and Raw - this man used to be the funniest and most talented man in the universe. Now we get Doctor Doolittle. I mourn this loss.

Overall, 365 movies in 365 days was ambitious, and I only watched 265 in that time. I learned that watching good "classic" movies often takes discipline, something I wasn't always up for and I often defaulted to a movie I could slightly tune out. I actually miss logging my movies this year, and I've already watched Blazing Saddles like four times this year.

The documentary about Kathleen Hanna, The Punk Singer, is now on Netflix. I devoured this chat between Kathleen Hanna and Gloria Steinem.

I am slowly making my way through The Billfold's great feature, Doing Money, on how people manage money, what they earn, and how they spend and save.

WTF is normcore? This New York Times feature helps sort it out a bit. 

Meg Biram's Get Shit Done is one of the most useful blog features around.

"But I think there’s probably a simpler reason,” he said, “which is these guys are just jerks, and women know it." Technology's Man Problem is a good read. 

The Comedian Comedians Were Afraid Of, on Patrice O'Neal and his talent, both for making people squirm and making them laugh. O’Neal believed that stand-up—if it was any good—had to take prisoners, that it was always at someone’s expense. And if anybody was going to be uncomfortable, it wasn’t going to be him.

Get lost in MIT's fantastic resource, Open Courseware. American Consumer Culture. Social Theory and the City

Photo from The LIFE Archives.

Today is Opening Day at AT&T Park. Baseball started last week but I wait until Opening Day to declare baseball back. Here we are: the San Francisco Giants play the Arizona Diamondbacks today at 1:35pm. The annual tradition of the reading of Casey at the Bat continues.

I love baseball with a hopeful heart. Raised on the heartbreaks of the Red Sox, I approach every season with the trepidation of someone who's been burned before. Of course I have. It's baseball.

It breaks your heart. It is designed to break your heart. The game begins in the spring, when everything else begins again, and it blossoms in the summer, filling the afternoons and evenings, and then as soon as the chill rains come, it stops and leaves you to face the fall alone. (Bart Giamatti)

Another season is here. Welcome back baseball. I missed the hell out of you.

Photos from Square America.

This is a photo of me and the man I've loved for fourteen years standing on the steps of the duomo in Siena, Italy on the day before we got married. I look at this photo and all I see is love.

I spent hours (actual, real-life hours) obsessing over the taking of these photos. I worried about how my upper arms would look and my awkward smile and if I chose the right shoes. I cried more than once with fear and anxiety around these photos. I was more nervous for this photo session than on the day I actually got married.

Our wedding photographers, Alessandro and Veronica Roncaglione, are incredible people. They eased all my fears about being photographed and were people we'd genuinely want to just hang out with.

Now that I have these photos I realize how sad all that worrying was. I'm embarrassed about it, frankly.

I also think about how rarely women who are not thin are represented among the oceans of wedding blogs and magazines. Wedding photos are chosen for women who are the ideal we're all supposed to buy into: thin, effortless, pretty. Where are all the photos of the perfectly average and lovely people getting married?

In the end, I said Fvck It and went sleeveless. In the end, I have photos like these and all I can see is the love. I'm so glad I didn't wear some dumb cardigan.